Valentine Scam

Your parent(s) could be a victim of a very sad type of scam that preys on lonely, older people.  After reading an article about how  unscrupulous people form ‘relationships’ only to extract money from wealthy seniors, I feel compelled to tell a story that occurred to a friend of my mother. Continue reading

Original Purpose

I’ve been bad.

I don’t mean that I’ve been ‘bad’ bad, only that in the nine months or so that I have had this blog I haven’t really achieved what I set out to do, and that is to enlighten people about what it is like to home care for an ailing parent or loved one.  I have learned so much in the past five years, and I really feel as though I have a lot of ‘down in the trenches’ wisdom to impart to others who may be traveling down this same road.


Mom in the 1980’s

So, I’ll start at the beginning, and pretend that you, Dear Reader, are sitting right here and have never met me or my mother.

Mom and I probably talked to one another several times a week, sometimes daily and sometimes many times a day, all through my life. She lived in a house about three miles from mine, and we shared (almost) everything, but especially insights and learning, and what others would call ‘metaphysical’ or philosophical topics. She, being a Christian Scientist as well as a voracious reader, and me, being somewhat of an ‘egghead’ myself, in our case meant that we didn’t talk about movie Continue reading

Home nursing

Out of the thousands of books I have in my mother’s and my combined library, my eyes rested on “Beeton’s Book of Household Management.” I pulled it off the shelf and settled in with a hot cup of peppermint tea.  I glanced through this facsimile of Mrs. Isabella Beeton’s 1861 tome, which outlines observations on all things from the history of fishes to making soups, jellies and puddings, to the management of the housekeeper and domestic servants. I was particularly interested in her chapter on Invalid Cookery, and although  it didn’t shed much light on the subject – at least not much that I could use – there was a passage that I was compelled to duplicate here:

“(2416) All women are likely, at some period of their lives, to be called on to perform the duties of a sick-nurse, and should prepare themselves as much as possible, by observation and reading, for the occasion when they may be required to perform the office. The main requirements are good temper, compassion for suffering, sympathy with sufferers, which most women worthy of the name possess, neat-handedness, quiet manners, love of order, and cleanliness. With these qualifications there will be very little to be wished for; the desire to relieve suffering will inspire a thousand little attentions, and surmount the disgusts which some of the offices attending the sick-room are apt to create. Where serious illness visits a household, and protracted nursing is likely to become a necessary, a professional nurse will probably be engaged, who has been trained to its duties; but in some families, and those not a few let us hope, the ladies of the family would oppose such an arrangement as a failure of duty on their part. There is, besides, even when a professional nurse is ultimately called in, a period of doubt and hesitation, while disease has not yet developed itself, when the patient must be attended to; …”

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