I haven’t visited my favorite caregiving website as much as I used to. It’s still too painful. But this morning, I did. And there was a question from someone whose father had dementia, and I found myself answering her question with more detail than I had anticipated.
I’ve just discovered old movies on YouTube. (Yeah, I know… but I just never looked!)
I mean… real oldies. The ones with Clark Gable, Loretta Young, Bette Davis, Douglas Fairbanks, Jr., Maureen O’Hara, Robert Young, Errol Flynn, and all the others too numerous to list. My sister would know the titles. My Dad and she shared a love of old cinema.
Your parent(s) could be a victim of a very sad type of scam that preys on lonely, older people. After reading an article about how unscrupulous people form ‘relationships’ only to extract money from wealthy seniors, I feel compelled to tell a story that occurred to a friend of my mother. Continue reading
I just love ThePianoGuys…. In case you haven’t ever heard of them, they play all kinds of music in all sorts of ways. They play on the tops of mountains, in the Scottish Highlands, in ice caves, on the beach, in a fountain, near the seven wonders of the world. And they have so much fun!!
Today is the composer Philip Glass’ 80th birthday, and I have been listening to his music all afternoon.
My dad loved Glass’ music way back in the 1970’s, but I couldn’t quite get into it at that time. I thought it was bizarre, avant garde and discordant. A lot of people agreed with me, and egg-throwing was not uncommon at his concerts. They couldn’t understand it, and back then, neither could I.
I was doing some research a few minutes ago, and the attached graphic on the right and the text copied below came up on my screen. Although my mother has now been gone for four months, I am horrified at the pills that are sometimes given to people with dementia. I am so grateful that my mother never took any medicines. She may have been a bit forgetful, but she was a sweetheart.
Please read the text below. Even if you are not a caregiver, you may know someone who is. I haven’t changed a single word of the advert. This medication is NOT to be given to the elderly!!
There are other, safer and more natural ways to manage depression, agitation, irritability, and dementia.
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Get the Kleenex ready… I started crying quite a few times as I watched this video of the ‘Music and Memory’ project in Australia.
Every morning when my mother was alive, I would come downstairs and put the radio on for her. In addition to listening to the classical station, W-QXR, we would watch VCR’s of musicals including, “My Fair Lady,” “Gigi,” “Carousel,” “The Sound of Music,” “Camelot,” and many others. Mama loved, “Fantasia,” and Disney was a genius in making that movie – it’s NOT just for kids!
Today marks the one year mark of my blog and the anniversary of Beethoven’s 246th birthday. (See my first blog, Music Therapy.) I have just finished watching, “Immortal Beloved.” Again. This year, I shared some of it with my son. You’re never too young or old to learn about Ludwig.
A whole year has gone by since I started writing about natural caregiving, and so very much has changed for me. I wouldn’t know where to begin, so I won’t. I don’t want to look back – I am facing forward. What I do understand though is that many of us put our focus on things that don’t really matter, things that seem to give us pleasure, but in the long run, are inconsequential. I’m glad I spent time with Mom, even if it did mean forsaking a lot of things I might otherwise have done. I received far more than I gave up.
As she would always say, “People are more important than things.” Amen.
I can remember waking up on a December morning such as this and thinking, OMG only two weeks until Christmas! I haven’t gotten the tree, or bought presents, or decorated the house yet!
I am so very glad that I don’t feel pressure to do those things anymore. Not because my dear mother is no longer here to share the making of Plum Pudding, or sing the Hallelujah Chorus with me, but because Christmas is or should be for children, and mine are all grown up. The spirit of Christmas is for all, and the exchanging of thoughtful gifts is nice, but not when you have to go out and spend your bonus money or full paycheck to make other people happy! Am I being ‘grinchlike?’ Probably. But I have enough holiday spirit in my heart to fill more than a sleigh full of memories.